Hey everyone, I hope you have had an incredible week and have been enjoying this gorgeous weather. Everything seems so much better when the sun is shining!
I am down in London for a couple of days attending the annual DoTerra convention. As you know, my whole purpose is to help women to live their best lives and for me that encompasses so many aspects of health, happiness and wellbeing. DoTerra is something I have become passionate about very recently when I was gifted one of their amazing essential oils. I fell in love with the oils because they helped me manage my own wellbeing and so I incorporated the oils in to my offering to support other women too.
I am really looking forward to having a couple of days learning more about the benefits of these gorgeous essential oils so that I can bring more value to my clients and to connect with other women that are as passionate about DoTerra as I am. Can’t wait!
This week is the final week exploring the concept of Ikigai. So far we have looked at:
- What you love
- What the world needs
- What you can be paid for
This week is all about shouting about what you are good at! There is no time to be coy or self-deprecating, it doesn’t serve you. It is time to be bold and to start declaring all those gifts you have been hiding away.
So, how do we get clear about our strengths? This is one of the areas that I love exploring with my coaching clients. There are a few strategies I use with people to help them get clear about what their gifts are. Here are just a few…
Think about someone who really inspires you. It doesn’t matter if you know them personally or not. Take some time to think about what it is about them that inspires you. Make some notes about the specific qualities they have that you admire. What do you admire about these qualities?
Could it be possible that you share these qualities too? Very often, the things we admire most in others are the very qualities we possess ourselves (this is also true for our flaws!). We just don’t see it.
Finding your flow
Think about times in your life when things have just worked and life has felt easy or in flow. What was happening at that time? Where were you? Who were you with? What were your personal circumstances? What aspects of your life felt easy?
Success leaves clues. When life feels ‘in flow’ it usually means that you are experiencing alignment. It could mean that you were able to use your strengths and you were not feeling compromised or constrained. What are the patterns or commonalities that you notice when you look at these times in your life? How can you bring more of that in to your life right now?
The word game
Very often, we find it hard to acknowledge our own strengths because they are just things we do without even thinking about it. The people around you who are closest to you will have a very good idea of what your gifts are! Reach out to people who know you well and ask them to send you 5 words that describe you best. I usually find it is best to give them some context so that you get sincere answers. Explain to them that you are working on your personal growth and as part of that you would like to understand more about your strengths. Tell them not to justify or elaborate, just simply send you 5 words that describe you at our best. I will warn you now…this can be emotional when you see how much amazingness (it’s a word!) people see in you.
We don’t often take time to celebrate our successes let alone really give any thought to why we were successful. Make a list of five key successes you have had. Take a moment to be proud of the things that you have achieved. When you look back, what were the strengths you displayed at those times that secured your success? Keep listing them down until you have exhausted the list. I think you will see some common themes recurring!
I have recently taken the Strengths Finder online strengths test. You answer a series of questions and the results then demonstrate your top 5 strengths and provide some detail about what these strengths look like when you use them. The tool was developed by Gallup and the principle is all about maximising your strengths. We get conditioned to accept our strengths and then focus all our development on any weak areas so that we become more balanced overall.
I love Strengths Finder because it turns that approach on its head and instead focuses on finding your strengths and focusing your development on making those strengths even better. If you are not good at something, you might make a small improvement in this area over time with dedication and focus however imagine how much more successful you could be if you continue to build and capitalise on something you are already good at. The reality is that you will also get much more satisfaction from gaining mastery in something rather than becoming average at something else. You can find out more HERE
Why not share one of your strengths in the comments and be PROUD of who you are?
Next week, I will be bringing the whole thing together and explore how we really can live our dream life.
Until next week,